5 Self Love Tips
Updated 2024.10.23
You are allowed to love yourself exactly as you are. You can do this despite the past. You can do this despite other's thoughts on if you should or can. You can do this even in an environment of fear or worry.
Loving yourself is, in a sense, being selfish.
When you love yourself, you know your core baseline needs and do your best to meet them. You acknowledge those needs as necessary. It is taking the time to find out what you like and dislike and investing in your likes.
Returning love to the self can be a mystical experience. When you reach a place of existing in a state of love, you may feel love energy coming from everything. This can feel as though you and everything live as one continuum.
You may sense love emanating from objects. You may see the innocence in others. You may feel inspired to behave more lovingly towards others.
These are just a few of the benefits of practicing self love. Other benefits of practicing self love include:
A greater awareness of your soul purpose
A greater sense of contentment with life
A greater clarity of who you are as a being
More positive thoughts
So below, I want to go over a few of my favorite tips for cultivating self love.
I hope you can experience more and more of what I've described above, entering the world of self love and staying for as long as you like.
1 - "I am not others’ definitions of me" mantra
Other people's descriptions of how you helped them in their life can be indicators of your spiritual gift or your particular life purpose. That said, it is not 100% who you are, it is only how you have fit into their puzzle.
How we fit into others’ puzzles is an essential insight into our role in relationships or even the service we provide that others find most valuable; good to know for business and commerce.
But evolving into a loving version of yourself often involves dropping other people's labels of yourself and allowing yourself to grow beyond them.
Repeating "I am not others’ definitions of me," also helps to release other people's control issues or attachments. This can give you a greater sense of energy freedom in your energy field to explore who you really are.
2 - Create a vision board of things you knowingly like, titled "This Is Me"
While the soul is limitless, the physical body is in the third dimension, which is limited with real boundaries - real ends and beginnings. These ends and beginnings are containers that shape who we are. Think back over the years, and let's start simple.
Are there certain blends of tea or coffee you gravitate towards? Certain types of pizza you always order from the menu? Color palates you seem to ooh and ahh over or choose for professional photos time and time again?
Have you ever suggested someone else pick something out for you because they "know" what you like? Well, what is that?
Physical objects, including foods and drinks, include energetic signatures that can match our own. When you match the same things over time, seeing these in front of you can give you ideas that can help define who you are.
Once you have those identifiers, and can see them, it's easier to love what that is and expand from there. These are boundaries, which stem from the word bound, meaning to leap or move upward, give you starting place to grow from.
For this exercise, try creating a vision board. I like using Secret Boards on Pinterest for sorting the things you do like.
I suggest starting with favorite foods and then moving into other things you are known to like from there, such as certain styles, landscapes, or hobby items. These are your favorite aesthetics.
Once you have at least ten and up to one hundred Pins, sit back and observe your likes' new vision board. Notice how you feel. It may indicate a particular brand style, which minimalists call a uniform. Having a self-uniform can simplify life and create the knowns of who you are to an extent.
This visual that now exists outside of yourself, the This is Me Board, allows you to love and see things to appreciate about you - it also allows you a jump off point for ideas on what you want to grow and tap into for soul evolution.
Go back to your This is Me board every day for a month. Admire it, fine-tune it, or add to it - this will cement a sense of Who You Are, and having a visual of what this looks like can promote your ability to love Who You Are.
3 - Pause and do something loving for yourself
Consider loving actions beyond the baseline - food, shelter, clothing. Besides making your favorite food, putting on your favorite clothing, and pausing to do something loving, do something that will create a more enjoyable next moment.
For example, you could light a candle, organize something you've been meaning to arrange, or shift to a more comfortable standing or sitting position.
4 - One whole day of only loving thoughts
For an entire day starting now, commit to thinking only loving thoughts to yourself. Start with five things you like with your current environment and then move inward to something you like about your person or mindstate.
If you have a thought that is punishing, such as one about the past, speak back to it by internally saying something. Mention that where you are is valuable or that you did the best you could.
Simply come back to loving thoughts all day, converting even ideas you have about others to loving ones.
When you think loving thoughts, you start to believe them, promoting calm and peaceful feelings. These feelings then radiate outwards to others, creating a more loving ecosystem over time. Then, this cultivated self love is reflected back to you.
5 - Identify your Standards of Integrity
As a tidbit from a book I enjoy, called The Energy of Money, this process asks that you visualize yourself on your deathbed. A small handful of your favorite people are there. Everyone you love is alive. Their final messages to you are the things they admired about the way you lived your life.
Think of five or more of these people, write them down. Write down what you imagine them saying about your admirable qualities while you lived, something they aspire to be. Each one will tend to focus on the quality of living.
Sit back and look at what you wrote - pull out a word from each. These are your baseline Standards of Integrity. These are who you strive to be. Put them on an index card and look at these words every day for thirty days.
You will begin to see things you respect and love about these qualities and align more with them. This will give you a sense of self-satisfaction about how you feel about yourself, which can convert to feelings of love.
So these are a few of my favorite tips to cultivate a love for the self.
One of life's purposes is to develop a love for the self because it's fun, it feels good, and it amplifies who you are as a soul, magnifying your purpose on Earth now.
When you practice self love activities like those above, it can promote a clearer vision of your path forward, creating other good feelings, like optimism and belief. If you have done the above, now take action in your work at home or in the office sphere. Get started with your top three to-dos for the day, or simply enjoy existing.
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